Positive Deviance

For my act of positive deviance I did something I would never have thought I'd ever do. I babysit for a really close family friend and they have a daughter who is 6 and a son who is 9, and another son but he is much older, and not around. I watch them quiet often so they share a lot with me. The kids told me that they don't feel their dad cares about them, or loves them and that all he really cares about is work, and other things. This really upset me because those are young kids hurt. I decided maybe to step out of my comfort zone and change this situation by using a little positive deviance to try and fix things. I decided when the father got home that I would say something to him before I left, and I was really nervous my palms were sweating because I normally don't say much, and especially because I don't have a kid so what right do I have telling one how to raise their kids. I knew this could go wrong, but I took the risk. I said I need to speak to you and it was awkward, but after me talking to him for awhile about how his children felt he had that reality check. He thanked me and was so grateful, and I even felt closer with him. He told me that he is sorry he didn't get involved in his kids lives the way he should and I think maybe when his older son comes home he can spend quality time with him too knowing that he felt the same way towards his father. Now he can have his second chance at becoming closer with his kids. It made me feel so good because I felt that was positive deviance and I made a dad happy. Also, the kids can all be happy and maybe their family will be much closer now.